Building an ideal family in accordance with the basic principles of Christian marriage is not an easy process. In society, divorce has become commonplace. “If it’s not suitable, why should it continue?” Or “We no longer love,” we often hear similar sentences.
In fact, not infrequently the divorce is carried out by public figures who become role models for many people.
Divorce is not uncommon in Christian families. Even among Christians, there are pros and cons regarding this matter. There are those who strictly forbid, there are also those who provide concessions. All argue with the same basis, namely the Bible. What are the pros and cons?
- Cons – divorce is a betrayal of God
Malachi And you ask, “What for?” Because God has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth to whom you have been unfaithful, even though she is your ally friend and your covenant wife. One of the contradictory views on Christian divorce refers to the opinion that divorce violates the Christian purpose of life, namely the purpose of life to please God. The book of Malachi discusses this, namely how God’s people behave in unison by worshiping other gods to make God sad. Divorce is called a betrayal, not only to the spouse but also to God who has witnessed the Christian marriage vows.
- Cons – divorce is not God’s original plan
Matthew “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has united cannot be divorced by humans. “Marriage is an initiative from God and the law of divorce in Christianity is not God’s original plan.
- Pro-divorce is permitted in the event of adultery
Matthew But I say to you: Whoever divorces his wife, except for adultery, then marries another woman, she commits adultery. “It is undeniable that one of the causes of divorce is the relationship of infidelity. The Bible also records this with the divorce letter made since the Israelites were led by Moses. In addition, one of Jesus’ answers to divorce also made some Christians view divorce as something permissible, with a record of adultery or adultery.
The Law of Christian Divorce
The Bible records a unique story in Hosea about a prophet who received God’s command to marry a prostitute or prostitute. The prophet at that time was synonymous with holiness and closeness to the relationship with God. Apart from the pros and cons of divorce in Christianity, there are several laws recorded in the Bible concerning the divorce law in Christianity, namely:
- God hates divorce
God does not want betrayal and hates divorce. God wants everyone to protect themselves and be loyal to their partners
- Divorce occurs because of human ignorance.
A pro view of divorce exists because of the basis of the Bible verse. However, if you read the article in its entirety, you will find that divorce letters in the time of Moses and Jesus’ words of divorce in case of adultery are actually caused by human ignorance, not God’s plan.
Ways to Prevent Divorce
This story describes God’s love and grace for His people who are always available even to those who are underestimated. This gift was also shown by Jesus through his death on the cross for mankind. In addition to describing God’s great grace, this story becomes a role model in marriage relationships. Apart from the desire of the human heart to divorce caused by any reason, whether domestic violence, infidelity, incompatibility, etc., God’s main command is that we maintain the marriage. The following are some tips for preventing divorce in our marriage:
- Prayer and forgiveness
Pray, ask forgiveness for yourself and your partner. Although this is very difficult, try to wake up from the beginning, starting from the simplest, namely prayer.
- Changes in mindset
The mind is the origin of everything we feel and do. Take, for example, you are attracted to a bag when you are walking in a shopping center. You have convinced yourself not to buy the bag because, besides the expensive price, there is no spare money for shopping. Try after that you imagine the bag continuously. When you wake up, think about how beautiful the bag is. While working, imagine office colleagues praising your new bag. So what happened? Most likely you will buy the bag. As with marriage, if you think that your partner is not the ideal partner, then try thinking the opposite.